This blog
This is a blog concerned with one simple idea. Masculinity is good. We are half the human race and half of most other species too. It is no accident that we exist. It is not to serve ourselves only. We are important in the evolutionary scheme.
We now live in an era where it’s acceptable to say that men are useless or that some women would rather hug a bear than a man.
This blog is therefore about saying there is no such thing as toxic masculinity, only toxic people and they aren’t all masculine. It’s not about blame. It’s about simply stating we are here and we are valuable
Masculinity is positive.
Mission Statement
The purpose is to spread the word about the positive power of masculinity.
It is not disputing political creeds like feminism, although it will get criticised here but about asserting the right to be masculine and be proud of that.
As far as possible it will not be an attack on anything else but simply talking about the positivity of masculinity, the world building, the protectiveness and the desire to serve.
It is hoped to encourage the spreading of that message and provide psychological support and solutions to those in need.
Personal Bio
I am Raymond Cuttill. This is my bio. I will share
here very personal information of how I came to be here. It is shocking.
In 1952 my life started with an act of rape. It would be called a date rape nowadays. It was not taken seriously by the police in those days as a woman going out alone with a man was considered culpable for what happened to her. My mother determined not to adopt me. She was ostracised by her family. I have never met any of them. She endeavoured to support us as a live-in domestic cook. She encouraged me to be a ‘gentleman’. The problem was I was seen as weak by the other children.
In adulthood I wasn’t particularly successful with woman. In 1973 I got married. I thought that was what one was still supposed to do. Feminism and the pill were around by then. I thought getting married would mean I would raise a family and it would be my duty to provide for them. Sadly at some point the trust broke down and it was clear the no family was forthcoming. I won’t share any details as she might see it differently.
So I found myself alone and in a Dorking bookshop in 1987. A book called Women Against Violence Against Women offered to explain about sexual violence against women and given my mother’s history I brought it thinking what can we do about this problem. It turned out I could do nothing.
I was part of the problem. I had essentially asked feminism what the issues were and got a unfair and hateful message back. So I began my exploration of the issues.
I first encountered Neil Lyndon’s No More Sex War in the 1990s. He said that feminists did not liberate women. The pill and vacuum abortions did. He was effectively the first guy to get cancelled.
Since 1946 every weekday there is, in the UK, a program called Woman’s Hour. It became increasingly about women’s rights. At one point even suggesting that infanticide was understandable.
So in 2001 I created an online audio program called the Men’s Hour. I interviewed MRAs as they are known today. I was in at the beginning of Fathers 4 Justice, which by using stunts such as scaling Buckingham Place or a building near the Tower Bridge got publicity and eventually even some politicians promised to do something about father’s rights. After the 2007 election they accidentally forgot that. In helped that there was some spurious claim about F4J wanting to kidnap the Prime Minister’s son. Only unattributed hearsay was ever offered but it served the purpose of letting them off the hook of considering father’s might have rights.
Since then I’ve joined in a few debates and done some things online. For example, I attended the 2019 talks in Cambridge where Mike Buchanan and Elizabeth Hobson talked about “Equal rights for men and women” and a “history of feminism” in a room that was surrounded by 30-40 baying students trying to drown it out and who didn’t want to debate anything but held up placards saying “Fuck you” in big letters and made rude gestures.
This year I decided to do a blog and podcast about masculinity. This is the result.
What This Offers
This is a blog and will be accompanied by a podcast, discussion and information site, coaching. more on this later.
Contact Information
To contact me by email at
ppm@leavepost.com